A Pocket Full of Holes Forgets Everything
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i'm surprised he managed to land a job in the first place!
Still, was a good read
Still, was a good read
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I'm a tad on the absent-minded side, though not as bad as him. Some tricks have helped:
1. Establish regular simple habits, If you can get your routine down, you'll have all the normal habitual things.
2. Carry a big backpack (or suitcase, whatever). Just leave most things you'll need in it at all times. Then you don't have to remember them, they're just with you. Heavy I suppose, but you get used to it.
3. Pre-load. Instead of thinking "Must not forget X thing", put X thing in your backpack as soon as you're starting to worry about it. Again, then you don't have to remember it; as long as you have that bag, you've remembered everything.
With this I am no longer the guy who always forgets stuff and am instead the guy who always has everything you need in his backpack. Almost always, anyway.
1. Establish regular simple habits, If you can get your routine down, you'll have all the normal habitual things.
2. Carry a big backpack (or suitcase, whatever). Just leave most things you'll need in it at all times. Then you don't have to remember them, they're just with you. Heavy I suppose, but you get used to it.
3. Pre-load. Instead of thinking "Must not forget X thing", put X thing in your backpack as soon as you're starting to worry about it. Again, then you don't have to remember it; as long as you have that bag, you've remembered everything.
With this I am no longer the guy who always forgets stuff and am instead the guy who always has everything you need in his backpack. Almost always, anyway.
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What a sweet oneshot ! I'm glad he got a happy ending :)
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As someone with severe ADD, god I could relate to MC so bad. Unmedicated I can barely remember what I entered a room for. I tell the same stories over and over because I can never remember who I've told them to. A coworker once told me "talking to you is kinda like talking to a NPC in a video game after you've used up all the dialog options" 
It really does make you feel kind of hopeless some times. I remember one of the worst days I had I couldn't even get myself breakfast. Every time I got up to go to the kitchen I forgot what I was going into the kitchen before, or got distracted by something else along the way. About the 6th trip back to my room remembering all I wanted to do was FEED myself I got so frustrated I cried.
I can only be thankful that with my medication I can at least function somewhat like a normal human being, but it is rough knowing I'll likely have to be on this med for my whole life, and because it's only legal in the US and Canada my dreams of traveling are more difficult.
It really does make you feel kind of hopeless some times. I remember one of the worst days I had I couldn't even get myself breakfast. Every time I got up to go to the kitchen I forgot what I was going into the kitchen before, or got distracted by something else along the way. About the 6th trip back to my room remembering all I wanted to do was FEED myself I got so frustrated I cried. I can only be thankful that with my medication I can at least function somewhat like a normal human being, but it is rough knowing I'll likely have to be on this med for my whole life, and because it's only legal in the US and Canada my dreams of traveling are more difficult.
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@gomichandesu I feel you I have ADHD and I know when I'm off my medication I'm very forgetful and I hate it but you and I both should know that relying on the med isn't going to always be beneficial as mine has a lot of bad side affects and that we should try to get off the medication and rely on our self.
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@steven2ss,
I understand that feeling, but I've never been one to think inherently "medication=bad". To me it's really no different than a diabetic needing insulin, their bodies are malfunctioning in a certain way and medication helps overcome that. The medicine and my ADD are similar to me, my body is malfunctioning in a certain way and the medication helps overcome that.
I understand other people feeling differently, especially if they had bad side effects (I've never had much problems with it other than how stupidly difficult it is to actually get a hold of due to government red tape.), but I'm at least at peace being on it myself. Yeah, it's frustrating that other people/countries don't recognize the good it does for some people and instead choose to focus on how it can be abused, but I've said it before and I'll say it again and again, the medicine saved my life. Period. I would have never gotten through high school without it. I'd be a HS drop out with no ability to work any sort of job at that level, but also not quite fall into the "disability" category since ADD isn't recognized even if it is severe.
I've even been off it for an extended time due to a move into a new state and new regulations on medication causing a huge headache for me getting a refill. It was not a great time for me. My work performance plummeted, and this was only a crappy min wage job I had after I just graduated college. I've yet to find my "real" job, but I can only imagine when I have actual job responsibility how inept I would be without medication.
Different folks different strokes really, some are able to cope and adapt non medicinally, but others just plain aren't. I genuinely feel I'm in the latter category.
I understand that feeling, but I've never been one to think inherently "medication=bad". To me it's really no different than a diabetic needing insulin, their bodies are malfunctioning in a certain way and medication helps overcome that. The medicine and my ADD are similar to me, my body is malfunctioning in a certain way and the medication helps overcome that.
I understand other people feeling differently, especially if they had bad side effects (I've never had much problems with it other than how stupidly difficult it is to actually get a hold of due to government red tape.), but I'm at least at peace being on it myself. Yeah, it's frustrating that other people/countries don't recognize the good it does for some people and instead choose to focus on how it can be abused, but I've said it before and I'll say it again and again, the medicine saved my life. Period. I would have never gotten through high school without it. I'd be a HS drop out with no ability to work any sort of job at that level, but also not quite fall into the "disability" category since ADD isn't recognized even if it is severe.
I've even been off it for an extended time due to a move into a new state and new regulations on medication causing a huge headache for me getting a refill. It was not a great time for me. My work performance plummeted, and this was only a crappy min wage job I had after I just graduated college. I've yet to find my "real" job, but I can only imagine when I have actual job responsibility how inept I would be without medication.
Different folks different strokes really, some are able to cope and adapt non medicinally, but others just plain aren't. I genuinely feel I'm in the latter category.
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@gomichandesu I hope that you are able to travel around in the world and that you are able to be able to get better without medication as my ADHD is most likely not as severe as yours that I am able to rely on myself but it is also due to my family supporting me and helping me that I can. I also hope that your family is also supporting you. If you think that medicine helps you then say on it but I think maybe if you could try to find another type of medication for ADD/ADHD that you can take with you to travel or that is easier to obtain so that you don't feel frustrated when you try to get more. I feel you about how people see that the med can be easily abused and that when I say to others I take it people tell me I should get off it as fast a possible and I can see why but when I think about it they should also think about how many people it also benefits and isn't abusing it. Maybe this can help https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/1-2-3-adhd/201909/range-pharmaceuticals-adhd the meds that I take are actually listed in there. (methylphenidate and guanfacine).
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/201608/adhd-and-michael-phelps-medication-is-not-crutch
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/201608/adhd-and-michael-phelps-medication-is-not-crutch
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@noneofurbiz No, my life is not special, just your life must be plain and boring my dear.
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Not bad.
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As someone who has ADHD (Attention Deficit* & Hyperactivity Disorder) I had a lot of difficulty throughout my life of education and vocation with my handicap in attention which forgetfulness correlates with the deficit of attention to extent, so I can somewhat relate.
The art is beautiful in how simple but mature in detail it is, even though it has an effortless switch from a serious tone to a comedic one with the expressions and background which arguably kills or at least may diminish the dark aspect of
in the story along with his forgetfulness which could be thought as realistic if you realize that it's a neurologic handicap which I imagine people truly have.
As I've said in my sharing of my handicap, I have been forgetful to my detriment because of my ADHD, so it's a serious matter in of itself.
Unfortunately it's a one-shot that never became a manga, so I can only imagine and wonder how it would have adapted into a full story, but for what it was as a one-shot it was fairly good. 6.5/10.
Hopefully her other manga (Kimi wa Ghost) and (Sutta mon da!) of which I'm intrigued by get translated one day until I learn japanese.
The art is beautiful in how simple but mature in detail it is, even though it has an effortless switch from a serious tone to a comedic one with the expressions and background which arguably kills or at least may diminish the dark aspect of
despair and suicide
As I've said in my sharing of my handicap, I have been forgetful to my detriment because of my ADHD, so it's a serious matter in of itself.
Unfortunately it's a one-shot that never became a manga, so I can only imagine and wonder how it would have adapted into a full story, but for what it was as a one-shot it was fairly good. 6.5/10.
Hopefully her other manga (Kimi wa Ghost) and (Sutta mon da!) of which I'm intrigued by get translated one day until I learn japanese.
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@gomichandesu @steven2ss
I'm hoping you don't need my advice 1+ years later, but as a fellow with ADHD as well, I recommend doing neurotherapy.
It's expensive depending how many sessions your brain needs, but it's worth a lifetime for how much it fixes your ability to naturally be more attentive than without it.
I wish I realized I had ADHD sooner along with neurotherapy but oh well. I did it late at 23 years old in 2018 and since have had an ease to hold my attention in a conversation or direction of focus that I barely had before I did neurotherapy.
My lack of attention isn't the same anymore as it was without it. It's far better.
Although, I never completed the last 10 estimate sessions to finalize the process yet at the time.
Regardless, I still hold my improved attention if I don't become lazy in focus after many months.
I'm hoping you don't need my advice 1+ years later, but as a fellow with ADHD as well, I recommend doing neurotherapy.
It's expensive depending how many sessions your brain needs, but it's worth a lifetime for how much it fixes your ability to naturally be more attentive than without it.
I wish I realized I had ADHD sooner along with neurotherapy but oh well. I did it late at 23 years old in 2018 and since have had an ease to hold my attention in a conversation or direction of focus that I barely had before I did neurotherapy.
My lack of attention isn't the same anymore as it was without it. It's far better.
Although, I never completed the last 10 estimate sessions to finalize the process yet at the time.
Regardless, I still hold my improved attention if I don't become lazy in focus after many months.
