I get sexism was pretty serious back then and women were supposed to not be in the army. However, a good soldier wouldn't refuse communications with an individual who has been recognized by the commander. Personal reasons and soldier duties don't mix
@SummerK This would be correct if being high up on the military ladder had anything to do with being a soldier rather than an outlet to gain prestige for nobles. These guys are pretty clearly not the perfect representation of the ideal soldier, but they would be the norm for the setting and plot.