She was quite clear that she wanted to be praised and he understood that she wanted his affections. HE wasn't clear TO HER that he was never going to give it to her. Instead he ignored her or found fault which made her feel she needed to work harder to attain his praise. He actually liked that she saw him off or waited for him to come back, even though he wouldn't even acknowledge her. He felt good that she would follow him around and imitate him, even though he would not give her praise even when she did well. The failure to communicate is on both their shoulders, but his more so on his as he is the adult and she is the child who knows no better.