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avgjoegeek
Yeah man, most of us have been there. I know I have. I've been that shy and clueless guy. I remember bragging about being a virgin once to a group of girls at a party. That I was "saving myself" or some bullshit like that. I remember fingerbanging this country girl Annie - very Dukes of Hazzard, with daisy dukes and cowgirl boots, I mean we were just all over each other. She had my dick in her hands, I had my fingers up her twat and she was like "I want to have sex" and I said, "Sorry, but I'm a virgin, I don't do that" while she repeatedly asked for like, 30 minutes until she got pissed and asked me to take her home. Why did I do that? I have no fucking idea, I thought I was being a nice guy or something, I guess.
I've remember this one girl, Caroline, that I met a few years later in college. I'd left my virginity far behind, but I was still a beta pussy at this point. She would call me when she had been drinking, and ask if she could come over. As soon as she got to my place, she'd throw her clothes off, jump into my bed and literally beg me to fuck her - and I mean in the dirtiest, sluttiest way possible. But I was in my beta self-cucking white knight days! I was a GENTLEMAN. Oh no, I could not do such a thing to a girl that had been drinking! Meanwhile she's masturbating in front of me, moaning and writhing... oh, and of course I was head over heels for her. I wanted her to be my girlfriend. I wanted to date her. And surely, SURELY, she would be wooed by my gentlemanly ways and fall in love with me, right?
In the morning, her memories of the night before would be hazy, but after waking up naked in my bed next to me (and of course me with my clothes on!), she'd want to know if we had sex, and I told her no. And then a couple nights later, the same deal. Over and over again, for about two weeks. But she wasn't ready to date anyone, of course. And then after two weeks (and a half-dozen nights of her coming over)... she got a boyfriend. And that was that.
So after that I made a new rule, one that I would explain to women up front. -- If you get in my bed, you're consenting to sex. If you get in my bed and change your mind, you can walk out the door, but you can't ever come back.
Part of being a confident man is that you DO NOT have to put up with girls' bad behavior. Call them out on their shit. They won't hate you for it, and in fact they'll probably like you even more, because girls can't stand men that let women walk all over them.