they'd just divorced because of what a clusterfuck their marriage had been due to all the miscommunications and emotional neglect on both sides. For someone who is the love of his life, Harsen never tried to meet her halfway and got bitter instead. No wonder Ercella became emotionally unavailable, she was already struggling with the self-esteem which is step 4 of Maslov's hierarchy of needs when her husband's vassals contributed to ripping the love/Belonging, which is step 3, out from under her by still treating her like an outsider their 15 years of marriage and Harsen did nothing