How do you guys make friends?

[Nick_Asano]

Ever since the beginning of 2020, when the hoarding of toilet paper and anti-mask rallies first took shape, I've found making friends to be increasingly difficult, not to mention dangerous for myself, the people I love, and everybody else besides. I'm an introvert, but even I'm starting to get lonely. How do you guys make and maintain social lives in 2020? Or do you?

 

[Reader1001]

Well i have some friends on discord they knew others so i came in contact with them and now i am quite good friends with them too that's how my social life is going

 

[bigtiddyoneesan]

I walk up to people and do the friend dance.

 

[sterven]

It just happens.

 

[MawMaw]

you dont

 

[Afiaki]

Depends what stage of life you are at but usually the barrier to making friends is with you no matter the circumstance. Online or off, 2020 or not.
The easiest way is to do some sort of activity (there are an unlimited amount) that you enjoy and in which you can freely interact with the same strangers repeatedly. Most people think in a very similar way but they just have different experiences, so if you find people with similar experience then it's an easy way for everyone to engage with each other. So long as you actually engage with them as well.

 

[IntrovertedJean]

Well, first you need to go form a party (I suggest forming a well rounded party so you have more flexibility), then go on a bit of dungeon runs. Determining the drop distribution and exp allocation early on also helps a lot. Joining the same guild would also build rapport. If you have a lot of items, sharing them also helps. Once you’ve had high enough trust then sending them friend request would yield good results.



IRL, don’t fuss about it. Just talk to anyone and stick to the ones that you like. Some would be good and some would be bad but life’s a “hit and miss” so got nothing we can do bout that

 

[bigtiddyoneesan]

Some would be good and some would be bad but life’s a “hit and miss” so got nothing we can do bout that

^*sigh*

...I guess they never miss, huh?

 

[aloysiusks]

im only good with online people. i have 0 experience with people from the world outside

 

[YumGumYum]

They find you.

 

[hazzack]

maybe the real friends was the treasure we took along the way

 

[PantsMan]

I always keep my eyes peeled for when someone gets doxxed/accidentally doxxes themselves online. If they live near enough I'll take a night bus to their hometown, show up on their doorstep unannounced and invite them for lunch at the nearest pub. Of course, to reassure them that I'm not a rapist or whatever I'll start by saying something like "Sanji's easily the most useless and least interesting of the Strawhats. He's barely ever done anything relevant since his introduction aside from baking a cake, so why does he always get 3rd place in popularity polls?" That usually catches them off guard enough to initiate a friendship maneuver.

 

[YumGumYum]

Spoiler

I always keep my eyes peeled for when someone gets doxxed/accidentally doxxes themselves online. If they live near enough I'll take a night bus to their hometown, show up on their doorstep unannounced and invite them for lunch at the nearest pub. Of course, to reassure them that I'm not a rapist or whatever I'll start by saying something like "Sanji's easily the most useless and least interesting of the Strawhats. He's barely ever done anything relevant since his introduction aside from baking a cake, so why does he always get 3rd place in popularity polls?" That usually catches them off guard enough to initiate a friendship maneuver.

 

[MyersMan69]

It's mostly just opportunity. Most people make new friends when it's convenient and there's an easy opportunity. Lots of people have made friends with the people they sat near in school, lived near in uni dorms or worked with. The problem is rn there is no good opportunity and it's extremely inconvenient using traditional opportunities for making friends less than ideal. There's a lot of places that are for making friends online but most of the people on them are filled with irredeemably weird people. Another option is making friends with friends of friends but if you don't have a lot of friends or friends who spend a lot of time online that can also be hard. Tbh there's not really any good alternative options, and theres no real viable options for making friends during a pandemic except being in weird groups/discords or reaching out to people you already know. Although big disclaimer online friendships are 10000000% more fickle than real-life friendships so it will be a lot harder to maintain them than RL ones.

 

[imota]

first you gotta have luck, then you gotta have persistence

 

[Ashlinsama]

something that comes to you naturally has no meaning and will be eventually considered worthless. when you are rewarded after your immense effort only then you will treasure it. how to make friends if you are an introvert hmmmm ...easiest way will be to find more introverts like you (atleast thats what i did back in 7th) slowly youll start building confidence after chatting wiht them and will eventually end up with more friends. well if your at a stage where you arent able to approach anyone then i guess you should start with your family (in my case it was my cousin sis). after interacting with her for a large amount of time i came to know how a female thinks and what should i do to be close to them. So i guess family is your second best option. well if nothing works out you could try watching harem animes.... their protagnists are super chill with girls so you should carefully observe what he is doing and try imitating that .... another way of using this method is to observe the behaviour of those ' POPULAR' guys in your class or job. since they know how to easily interact with people regardless of gender.if you want people to naturally approach you then you should try being really good at something, it maybe sports, studies, charsima, or humor. GOOD LUCK.

 

[Rift]

Try to get into a group of people that's into the same thing as you.

 

[vinsegas]

Making friends as an introvert is hard. Experience talking here.
I find it easy to make friends fast with other introverted people. So if you find other introverted people and you think you can make good friends with them, make the first move, its usually the hardest part and introverted people dont do it normally.
Also, as and introverted yourself, you should know that we are hard to open about ourselves, so dont expect any progress during the fist couple of weeks.
Going to Uni if you want/can, is a great place to make friends.
And yeah, you want to share some hobbiess with the other people, otherwise they are not really going to be your friends, because you wouldnt share any conversation topic.

 

[kaizoku876]

first you gotta have luck, then you gotta have persistence

Surely you mean pluck ?

 

[Yushino]

I usually find them in games, sometimes competitive games but usually in low elo or high elo (the really humble players), rarely ever in the middle because everyone's so toxic qwq
usually if I carry them or help them with something, they talk to me and get to know each other

I also meet them in Discord but I find it a lot harder since the conversations I get from people in Discord are almost always so dry... ._. really takes out my energy trying to talk to them to get them to open up..I wonder if i've been doing something wrong even though i've been so talkative and trying to help them come up with topics but they keep responding so short and providing nothing to the conversation..then wonder why I'm ghosting them after I give up