Ok author, I'm ready.. give me Harsen's POV.
I bet Harsen's story would be like her silent guardian in the background with lots of stuff he had to sacrifice. Even if he sacrificed a lot it is still not enough to explain the neglect and the lack of communication he had with Ercella. She needed you the most, man, not your protection nor your sacrifices.
There were lots of things you could've resolved together, and not just you carrying all the weight leading you to abandon the person you wanted to protect the most.
I wonder what the author will do to redempt Harsen. Maybe hearing his story would turn the wheel around his favor.
Maybe marrying Ercella lead his family to be almost ruined? That's why he's triggered because to Ercella he was her best choice, but to Harsen she was his worst and he still choose her anyway.